5 times grandparents should interfere

When it comes to the grandkids and discipline, when should you speak up and when should you shut up?

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Twice a week you babysit your grandson, feed him lunch, and take him to the park. So naturally, you’re going to notice a thing or two. But whether to interfere or not is tricky for grandparents.

“In the long run, it’s best for the kids and family if the parents do the parenting—even if a grandparent disagrees with the approach,” explains Carl Grody, MSW, a family counselor in Worthington, Ohio.

While as a grandparent you may feel you have valuable child-rearing experience to offer, sharing this wisdom can backfire if the parent senses criticism. But there are a few times when it makes sense for a grandparent to step in. Check out the following scenarios: