9 things you shouldn’t say to grandkids

They may seem harmless but experts say these comments can do a lot of damage to child development.

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Despite our best intentions, many of the pat responses and pieces of advice adults have been giving children through the generations are either dismissive, patronizing, or just plain critical.

“It’s a natural reaction to make comments that you always made to your children and that your parents made to you—they get embedded in the family culture,” says Susan Newman, Ph.D., a social psychologist, parenting expert, and best-selling author. “In the last 20 to 30 years, we’ve learned a lot about the fallout from negative comments on child development.”

Here, we examine the most damaging comments nearly all of us heard growing up.

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