MILs, DILs, SILs—if the word “in-law” is in the name, the relationship is bound to be tricky. DILs complain about their MILs; MILs complain about their SILs. And one set of in-laws complains about the other set of in-laws.
And unlike dealing with a friend who’s toxic, you can’t exactly say, “See ya, wouldn’t want to be ya!” (Well, you can but not without paying a hefty price.)
Jennifer Freed, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist in southern California, says that most problems arise from an in-law who doesn’t exude maturity. That means that you have to be the adult—with a lot of understanding and a great sense of humor. Easy? No! But you can do it.